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You Have To Have Passion To Survive Failures And Succeed In Life – Morning Reflections

People say you have to have a lot of passion for what you’re doing and it’s totally true. And the reason is because it’s so hard that if you don’t, any rational person would give up.

It’s really hard. And you have to do it over a sustained period of time. So if you don’t love it, if you’re not having fun doing it, you don’t really love it, you’re going to give up. And that’s what happens to most people, actually. If you really look at the ones that ended up, you know, being “successful” in the eyes of society and the ones that didn’t, oftentimes, it’s the ones [who] were successful loved what they did so they could persevere, you know, when it got really tough. And the ones that didn’t love it quit because they’re sane, right? Who would want to put up with this stuff if you don’t love it?

So it’s a lot of hard work and it’s a lot of worrying constantly and if you don’t love it, you’re going to fail. So you’ve got to love it and you’ve got to have passion and I think that’s the high-order bit.

The second thing is, you’ve got to be a really good talent scout because no matter how smart you are, you need a team of great people and you’ve got to figure out how to size people up fairly quickly, make decisions without knowing people too well and hire them and, you know, see how you do and refine your intuition and be able to help, you know, build an organization that can eventually just, you know, build itself because you need great people around you.

-Steve Jobs


It takes a lot of passion to live the lives we live. A lot of passion, a lot of dedication, and a lot of perseverance. You have to value and Love what you have whether it’s an object, person, skill, job, business, anything, you have to have something, some desire, want, need, passion, that keeps you moving forward, to really persevere through the tough times.

Many tears and many failures, long roads, emotional catalysts and emotional shifts. Shifts that change your entire being, shifts that shake your world so dramatically that there’s only two choices, to stagnate and die or persevere and grow. You have to love what you’re doing whatever that is to stick with it, day in and day out, year in and year out, to grow together, to grow apart, and back again in a cycle to keep moving forward. To be willing to sit through all the pain. To be appreciative for things that we value, that we have, even when it doesn’t manifest into our lives the exact way we wanted, it manifested the way we needed in this lifetime to learn.

We’re all shapeshifters, masters of illusions, creators of our own reality, weavers of stories. Weaving in and out, creating the world around us through our thoughts, dreams, actions, living, lifestyles. Life is like that, living vs. just giving out and dying, finding your passion, and pursuing it even when you lose hope. Even when you’re in the darkness and there is nothing there but this deep pit of endless emptiness.

You have to face the darkness, the fear, the failure, the sadness, redefine the very meaning of failure itself, and learn from it. Until the darkness and the threats and challenges in it are no longer objects to be feared but opportunities to revere, even when it’s hard and painful and challenging, it gets easier, better if we let it. Because fact is, this world is hard, relationships are hard, people are hard, families, work and success, it’s all hard. Keeping and maintaining the things we love and want, cherishing it when we’re these divine beings having this very earthly, humbling and human experience it’s…hard.

And it just keeps getting harder and harder, until one day if we’re truly dedicated to mastering the skills and the arts, until one day it gets easier and easier if we let it. You reach this point where life feels like this endless cycle. Life is an illusion. You say. Then you reach a point where you realize, you can’t fix it. The only thing you can really fix is yourself. And in fixing yourself you fix a piece of the entire world, because you are the world, you are a piece. So then the only thing you can do in this life is to live, to just live and be as you are, in your most authentic and rawest form. Growing every day to be the best you you choose to be in any given moment.

Playing any game that motivates you to succeed and move forward. For me it’s the spiritual game, it’s the going home game, it’s the serving with love and seeing beneath the veils- to make the journey more tolerable game. That’s the game I love to play. That’s the game that keeps me going until the day we can put it all back into the box.

But until it does all go back into the box, all we can do is Engage. Engaging with the world and each other. Refining Ourselves. Learning More, and watching that cycle through until it finally clicks and sticks.

Engaging, Refining and Learning, that’s all life is: Engage. Refine. Learn. Wash-Rinse-Repeat. That back and forth Mantra, until you get to the bottom, that place where one day you realize you’re done, and breathe that last breath.

Take a deep breath, breathe in life. Life is a two-sided coin, a double-edged sword, it’s that place where you learn good and bad, love and hate are two sides of the same coin, they’re cut from the same cloth. And you realize that life whether it has to be or not, is always going to be hard work in some way shape or form, nothing is handed on a silver platter, people are always going to be hard work, but without the passion, the dedication even when you feel it will never get better, the perseverance, the willingness to try, the hope and ability to keep walking. Until one day you’re standing on the edge of the mountain top, looking out at the world, this is your becoming. The day you become the mountain, the mountain becomes you, and nothing in the world is separate, and you can finally go home to the place you were all along, right here. Everything you love is right here. Lost in the eyes of human experience, waiting for you to open your heart and feel: I see you.

But we go through life blind, unknowing, separate, in the illusion. We don’t know what’s beyond the veil, we don’t feel for it. And in that blindness, we hurt, we engage, we get lost, we get found, we play, we have fun, we have sorrow, we have wars. It’s a very human experience, a very hard experience, a very engaging experience, a learning, a refining. It’s hard. And if you don’t love it, if you don’t find a reason for what you’re doing, then you’re going to fail, because no sane person suffers through all of life, if they never find a reason to persevere and keep moving forward, even when it looks like it’s all over. Even when you’re in a Nazi Concentration Camp being marched through the forest in the dead of winter. Even when you’re trapped in the pits of middle eastern hell being attacked day in and day out by men, praying for death. You have to be willing to believe that it can and will get better, even if it doesn’t. And if you don’t believe, then there has to be a drive. Just surviving isn’t always enough, just surviving, just ghosting isn’t always enough to truly live with our whole heart and being, to truly feel, to truly be at home. Why do we have to wait to die, we can have it now. I can have it now, if I allow it, if I let it all in.

I close my eyes, the tears fall down. I’m not sad, I am in awareness this morning. I know that if I did not have the passion, the dedication and perseverance to keep walking, that if I didn’t value and love the things that I do in my life even on days when there is no hope, just full of sorrow and despair; even on days when I am full of joy, if I weren’t a masochist in some way. Willing to stress myself and endure until I break, and rebuild and grow; then I would never have the opportunity to know a day without pain right here, right now. I would never be able to appreciate, how beautiful the view is at the top, right now while I am living, while I am alive in this moment, in this form.

That’s how I feel today. I feel like I know what I value in my life, I don’t always know why it’s here or what will become of it. But I know it is here. I know that I value the things in my life that I have. I know that it’s been really hard, and even the pursuit of my spiritual path is going to be really hard, it’s really hard. But I love what I do, it’s my passion, the things I value in my life are my passion. And so long as I have that, that value, that passion, that dedication, that perseverance, that growth and transformation, that heart and soul that keeps me going like a never-ending drive…so long as I have that I can never fail, and like it or not, even if it has nothing to do with us, this is true for anyone and anything. That’s just the way it is, the way it will always be.

So there it is. The story of the hour.